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The best case scenario

The best case scenario

I am getting married exactly four weeks from typing this sentence. It is a notion that is as strange as it is obvious: we have planned for the wedding ourselves and the way calendars work, the date tends to get nearer as time passes by. Still it feels like Far Far Away Land for now. And probably it will feel like that until the day that I walk down the aisle. I know that this is how it goes; I have lived it before. It was exactly five years ago and they called that ceremony my PhD defence.

Once upon a time..

In the pre-defence period, I got lost in planning so many things that I forgot what I was actually planning. There were deadlines for diverse documents at different points in time, guest lists, invitations, and a growing dread that I was supposed to say very profound things in front of many of my dearest friends and colleagues very soon. I know, I know, saying one word suffices, it is merely a ceremony, but who wants to obtain their PhD by screaming ‘Mommy?’ or ‘Help!’? I didn’t.

In the pre-marriage period, there are also many bureaucratic hoops we need to jump through. There are deadlines for diverse documents at different points in time, guest lists, invitations, and a growing dread that we are supposed to say very profound things in front of many of our dearest friends and colleagues very soon. I know, I know, saying one word suffices, it is merely a ceremony, but who wants to start their marriage by merely squeaking ‘Yes’? I don’t. And I know I won’t.

The part where the main characters rise to the challenge

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